Supporting individual adults through healing relationships.

Relationship Counseling for Attachment Issues Online in Boston and across MA & NC. 

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You want to feel close, connected and deeply understood.

You don’t like yourself or your relationships as much as you think you should.

You don’t feel safe and understood like you so desperately need. You’re quite anxious, so you’ve felt that you get too close to people.  Or you’re quite distant, so you’ve felt like you couldn’t get close enough.

Sometimes you don’t even know what you’re feeling, you just know it’s too big and too much for you. Nobody has ever really gotten that about you. That makes you feel even more lonely.

You Struggle With:

  • feeling unsafe and mis-understood in your relationships

  • trusting others with how deeply you feel

  • feeling abandonment or loneliness in your body

  • getting your needs met

  • dealing with how you were parented or managing your current parental relationships

  • being self-critical and self-sabotaging

  • acting on impulse, revenge or survival

  • being vulnerable and having difficulty in sharing who you are

  • handling anxiety, shame, anger and sadness

  • setting boundaries

You have beliefs about yourself that are so deeply held that you don’t always recognize it.

They impact what you believe you’re capable and worthy of and how you treat yourself. Above all, they color how you see yourself and how you believe others see you. 

Which of these feel like you?

Something is wrong with me 

I don’t matter

My needs aren’t important

I’m worthless

I am trapped 

People I love will leave me

You’ve found it incredibly difficult to have safe, caring relationships.

You can experience safe, secure connections.

You can have difficult conversations, feel better about who you are, understand what you feel, ask for what you need, set boundaries, experience both sadness and joy safely and share yourself with others in ways you feel are impossible to do now. Your life and relationships are waiting.   

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As your therapist, I’ll be with you. 

You won’t be told what to do nor will you face judgment about your choices in relationships and behaviors. Instead you’ll be guided to learn to truly listen to yourself in making decisions about relationships, releasing your feelings and saying things that you’ve wanted to say, but haven’t said before.

Attachment and Relationship therapy can help you:

  • Reduce overwhelming emotions 

  • Rebuild the relationship with yourself

  • Build security and trust

  • Improve self-esteem

  • Identify and manage hidden feelings

  • Advocate for needs, boundaries and desires

  • Experience effective and connective communication

Together, let’s create safe and connected relationships.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • I provide relationship therapy for individuals only at this time. While we’re working together and you decide you’d also like to pursue relationship or family therapy, I will be happy to provide referrals.

  • Attachment is simply an emotional bond or pattern between people.

    Attachment Theory believes that your early childhood relationships with your caregivers deeply impact how you relate to everyone else. It asserts that a person who received emotional stability, trust, encouragement and safety as a child can connect well with others and themselves most of the time. On the contrary, it states that a person who did not receive these things would have more difficulty safely connecting with others and feeling self-assured. The theory lists several different ways/styles/patterns that a person would experience based upon their upbringing.

  • Attachment Theory lists 4 styles (or patterns as I call them); anxious, avoidant, secure and disorganized (which they list as a mix between anxious and avoidant).

    In therapy, your collective experiences of relationships will be what matters most. Sometimes, you might feel that it’s a useful tool to know where you fall in the patterns to help give you language to some of the experiences that you’re already having. We can tackle that together and use it in therapy when it feels relevant. Aside from that, you’ve likely found that you don’t fit into every box or label. And that’s perfectly okay.

    The same is true of Attachment Theory as a whole. It’s a guiding theory with some really useful information and can still have blindspots and nuanced understandings. We will always intend to be wherever you are and cognizant of your own unique experiences which may include generation, culture, neurodivergency and other specifics that are unique to you.

    In all ways, I intend to work with your whole experience as a person.

  • Processing difficult experiences safely and experiencing secure connection can lead to huge shifts in your patterns and your connections with others.

  • The work we do will not require others to be in attendance with you. The true focus in building secure attachment is learning to truly connect with yourself; the relationship you build with yourself will impact your relationships with others.

  • Your attachment is generally formed in your childhood based on the relationship you had with your parents or caregivers. Your attachment continues to be influenced by your adult relationships and experiences.

Sub - Specialties

  • Adoption, kinship care and family of origin/culture of origin separation 

  • Childhood trauma and difficult experiences 

  • Anxious and avoidant adults with relationship concerns

AEDP for Attachment and Relationships

AEDP is a whole body experience in therapy that builds closeness by undoing aloneness. Through rebuilding a relationship with self, difficult relationship experiences are processed and new experiences are built through active, real-life bravery and repetition.